Rational Johnny: I never procrastinate. I do what I consciously consider is best for my long-term success and wellbeing. Human Johnny: I procrastinate sometimes. I don’t think it’s that often. But I don’t understand why it happens. I set out to work or study and find myself scrolling Instagram, or playing some game, or even cleaning. It’s frustrating. Unconscious of Human Johnny: the tasks Johnny wants to do are scary and difficult. I want to avoid risk and conserve energy, so I try to not do them. I also scan the…
Listen to the other person’s unconscious rhythm if you want your dance together to move from fight to discussion
What do Manga Eyes, Facebook, Doughnuts and Multitasking? They are SuperNormal stimuli that hack your brain to trigger compulsive behaviour
We call it mindless scrolling because we are not conscious of our actions. But your hidden mind is working heavily to chase its poisoned rewards.
Why do we overeat? The triggers are information. 1. Information that food is available 2. Information that creates stress 3. Information about other people. Filter information to change overeating
Self-improvement is not possible most of the time. You need to create the conditions by moving into one of the two Goldilocks Zones of Well-being.
The big secret under your nose You’re smart. You’re educated. You work hard. You have initiative. You have good ideas. You take risks. Yet you cannot break out of being average. You are stuck in an average job. You have great business ideas. But you never finalize any of them into something successful. So you remain in a job with ok money and some validation, but that is soul crushing. You want to be strong and fit. You work out. You eat what people say is healthy. But you feel tired, weak…
No willpower needed
Workaholism is nothing like alcoholism, yet they are the same. You work too much, you live too little.
I had an identity crisis from a problem that made me weak, and learned weakness is not being weak.